Well here is a list of merchants that have dropped NY affiliates- or at least sent notice.
CJ:
- American Blinds & Wallpaper
- BodyBuilding.com
- Geeks.com-Computer Geeks
- REI
- Ross-Simons
LinkShare
- Aquaria
- Amerimark
- Drs. Foster & Smith
- Overstock
AbestWeb forums has some excellent information on the topics and some merchants who already collect NY sales tax are letting affiliates know they won’t have any issues with their programs.
My suggestion is to incorporate yourself in a more friendly place ..like New Jersey, Nevada etc.